Thursday, December 6, 2012

On the move...



“If we find ourselves with a desire that nothing in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that we were made for another world.” - C.S. Lewis


I’ve only talked to Rick a few times in the last week.  The first time was two days after they had moved him out of Denton County Jail.  He told me they had taken him all over the Dallas metroplex.  He had gone from Denton to Plano to Sherman back to Plano and then they put him in a county jail in Bonham, TX.  This all happened between Wednesday and Friday of last week.  He was put in a detox cell where some guy had vomited everywhere and Rick had to sit on the concrete floor for 6 hours inhaling the stench.  In another holding cell he slept on the stone cold ground without even a blanket.   They didn’t administer his medication that he needs to keep his heart healthy.  He has two stints in two of the main arteries in his heart after having an emergency procedure in January and his meds keep his heart healthy.  They didn’t feed him for 14 hours in one stretch and he had nowhere to shower.  Shackled like a dangerous animal, moved from cage to cage.  To finally land South in Seagoville detention center where he would wait to be moved once again.  

It was a very rough few days.  He said there were times where he felt like he was going to lose his mind and then he would pray and a guard would come and move him again.  He is happy to be out of the county system and in the Federal system.  The accommodations are much better and the prisoners are not micromanaged by guards.  There is more room to move around and exercise.  The food is less like dog chow, they have regular mattresses, and he now has a pillow.  He can use a normal razor and shaving cream so he has shaved his face.  There is more privacy when taking a shower and using the restroom.  He sounds relieved and hopeful.   It’s the little things…  He went from a navy blue scrub type uniform to a bright orange frock.  And he has already made friends.

And then there’s Ty.  He is the wolf clad in sheepskin that lured Rick into his den of lies and stole so much from so many including us.  He too is in Seagoville.  A fateful encounter.  A sweet and unexpected grace arranged by a loving God.  Rick ate lunch with Ty the first day he was there.  He laid down the burden of bitterness and anger over a prison meal.  And Ty apologized and Rick forgave and the freedom that even prison can’t abolish was granted to a wounded soul.  How good is the Lord that He would orchestrate such a meeting to mend hearts and remove baggage and liberate from darkness.  He is a God at work for our good and His glory and blesses richly even in the most broken and ugly places.  

I went down on Sunday with my step-dad who is an attorney to see if they would let me in with him on an attorney visit, but they wouldn’t.  I have to fill out some paperwork and have a background check which can take about 3 weeks to process.  It was extremely disappointing, but I’m so grateful he got to hug someone he loves.  

They are moving him today to Oklahoma.  This is where all the Federal prisoners in the United States are brought before they are taken to their destination.  He will be leaving Seagoville on a bus with 25 other souls and picking up more along the way.  This reality still seems like a movie to me.  I wonder who he will meet, what he will see, what stories he will hear, what experiences he will have.  When I spoke with him yesterday he was telling me some of the dynamics of the prison and how it is segregated among the races and there is a spokesperson for each race who communicate to one another.   He was telling me about the guards.  They have women guards in there instructing these men.  This is CRAZY!  He was telling me some of the funny stories of how the inmates interact with the guards and each other and how the crazy woman guard calls them “mens” when addressing them as a whole.  We were having a good laugh.  You can always count on Rick to see the humor and make jokes in a sad situation like this.  But I’m thankful for a good laugh with him.  It makes it feel normal somehow.  

He will be in Oklahoma for a week or two and then finally be taken to Big Spring, TX where he will serve the rest of his sentence.  It is a 5 hour drive from where we live.  I probably won’t get to see him for another 3 weeks.  I may not get to talk to him for 2 weeks while he is in Oklahoma.  This has been the hardest part for me.   Not knowing if he’s safe and where he is and what he’s going thru and if he needs anything.  And then the distance.  I have no idea how we are even going to be able to afford to see him that often.  And driving with 3 small children 10 hours on the road for just a day or two honestly seems excruciating.  It feels like too much and somewhat impossible, but I know the Lord will make a way if it is His will.  He is up to something…

I’ve been weepy all week as what lies ahead starts to settle in this jolted heart.  Wiping away big tears falling on soft cheeks holding tight my little brood as I convey the dismal news.  And we let it rain.  But not without Hope.  For “Those who sow in tears will reap with songs of joy” –Psalm 126:5.  There is a Living Hope.  Foretold by ancient prophets long ago came to pass an eve that will soon be celebrated by many.  It is not in getting everything we want and it is not in perfect circumstances or toys or security or people.  All of these things will betray us.  They will never give what our heart longs for.  “He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the hearts of men; yet they cannot fathom what God has done from beginning to end”  -Ecclesiastes 3:11.  Jesus has come to save and heal and redeem.  And this is the GREATEST HOPE that we could ever have.  He is the Answer to our hearts calling from the deepest place.   He will carry us through this treacherous valley with grace and renew our strength when we feel we can’t go another step and surround us with his army of saints praying and loving and fighting faithfully with us.  A treasure, a gift, a hero, a Savior.  We get Him, and He is enough!

So we wait.  We forge on.  And we persevere.  And Christmas seems sweeter this year.   Not because we have more stuff, but because we have more of Him.  And life is more meaningful in ways that I have never known.   He is showing me how much He loves me by the prayers of so many, the encouraging words and gifts that help so much, our family who is gracious and lives sacrificially, our church home group who has rallied to serve and bless us, and beautiful friends who have cried with me and loved me and been so generous.  “Joy and pain, they are but two arteries of the one heart that pumps through all those who don’t numb themselves to really living” –Ann VosKamp.  So this is really living...all for the Glory of His name.

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